Assertive TASKS

If unsure about what someone means, seek a clearer understanding rather than making assumptions.

Only apologize when truly warranted, not as a reflex to placate others.

Strive for the middle ground of assertiveness rather than swinging to either extreme.

Recognize and reward yourself for moments of successful assertiveness.

Read books or attend workshops on assertiveness training.

After assertive interactions, reflect on what went well and areas of improvement.

Recognize and believe in your value and rights as an individual.

Respectfully decline requests or demands when necessary.

Understand other viewpoints, but remain firm in communicating your own.

Express your feelings, needs, and desires directly and unambiguously.

Use this to stay calm and centered, especially in potentially confrontational situations.

Recognize the importance of taking care of your mental and physical health.

Practice challenging discussions in advance to feel more prepared.

Engage in role-playing exercises with a friend to practice assertive communication.

Understand how others perceive your assertiveness and areas of improvement.

Engage in support groups or counseling to build and refine your assertiveness skills.

Clearly define what is acceptable and what isn't in relationships and situations.

Maintain your composure, even when faced with opposition or resistance.

Frame your statements in a way that owns your feelings or perspectives without blaming or accusing.

Stand tall, maintain eye contact, and use open gestures to communicate confidence.